My client, a massage therapist and single mother, came to me with the intention of resolving the conflicts in her primary relationship, which was squarely on the rocks. She was also struggling to make ends meet and wanted to create a better life for herself and her daughter.
My first step with her was to focus on developing her sense of independence. She needed to get grounded in her own life so she would no longer feel overwhelmed and dependent on her boyfriend to make her life OK. She began to explore ways that she could increase her value as a therapist and began to make more money. She learned new parenting skills that helped her regain control in her household. Her life stabilized.
As she increasingly stood on her own two feet, she started to communicate her needs with her boyfriend. Using nonviolent communication strategies that she learned through coaching, she was able to claim her needs and start to explore better solutions to their conflicts. After some time, they both agreed that their partnership was not a good long-term choice and they separated in a conscious and loving way.
When we concluded our coaching relationship, she was financially independent as a healing practitioner and was engaged to a man who was a great choice for a long term partner.
